Some important information to help others
It is frustrating and painful to see someone you love caught in addiction and natural to desperately want to change them. The tendency is to use confrontation, to try and make them admit they have a problem or admit they need help.
This approach is promoted in the media and on several rehab sites, but it will usually exacerbate the problem and can trigger or intensify reactive patterns. The most effective way forward is a non-judgmental neutral platform as all other approaches can quickly escalate into emotional reactivity in all parties. Confrontation, or attempting to use guilt or shame as motivators for change, can drive the person further into addiction.
The psychology of an addict is completely different to that of someone who is not a drug user. An addict already knows they need to quit. But when you are an addict, your moral compass is non-functional, your willpower is non-existent, your emotions are stuck in the negative.
Before talking to someone about their drug use, change your own perception, gain insight into their condition so that your approach can be more neutral. If you understand what an addict feels and why they use drugs and exactly what you are expecting them to ‘give up’, the outcome is more likely to be beneficial.
- Get my book The Rebel’s Guide to Recovery. Read it yourself, then leave it lying around.
- Inspiration is the most powerful agent of change. Inspire others by changing yourself first. This is what we call ‘silent teaching’ in Chinese medicine.
- Buy eHAB: the online course in how to quit drugs, watch it yourself, try some of the exercises, and then offer it to the person.
- Phone Dream Catcher Rehab to discuss the Residential Rehab program on 1800 100 119